tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post4733993228220197168..comments2023-02-02T11:12:54.003-05:00Comments on All The Pretty Things: How come no one told me?Ccristinathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03229902046657872937noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-45771610787811041132013-07-23T21:34:19.613-04:002013-07-23T21:34:19.613-04:00Oh how I feel your pain. My best advice is sleep w...Oh how I feel your pain. My best advice is sleep when he sleeps. Hubby can learn to cook and clean. You need your rest.Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08885939843737960972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-43098389600321145542013-07-21T17:50:37.587-04:002013-07-21T17:50:37.587-04:00I hope that writing that helped you some. Talking...I hope that writing that helped you some. Talking about it was the only thing that saved me as a new mother. And some help from my doctor. I had bad postpartum. I hope you don't get too bogged down in this and that some of these wonderful comments left will help you along in your days ahead. Hugs! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-45326880169085326462013-07-20T18:59:20.530-04:002013-07-20T18:59:20.530-04:00Many of us have been where you are and know how yo...Many of us have been where you are and know how you're feeling! It is hard! Something else I found helpful was finding a group of young, new moms that I could share how things were going with. Then you don't feel quite so alone. Take care! Sending positive thoughts!LIttle Penguin Quiltshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05963436433585505550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-82750956829361157172013-07-20T13:20:30.616-04:002013-07-20T13:20:30.616-04:00You have written an honest description of having a...You have written an honest description of having a newborn in the house. So many women pretend everything baby related is wonderful and it's not. Eventually they do sleep through the night (and so do you!). Tell your doctor about this. It is so much better to get help early on rather than waiting. You can get through this. I was not particularly fond of the newborn stage when the babies are helpless, but much preferred when we could interact. Hang in there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-5098241039423989512013-07-20T03:24:00.372-04:002013-07-20T03:24:00.372-04:00Hang in there. Ask for help....from your husband (...Hang in there. Ask for help....from your husband (bottles are there for a reason)from family and from your medical team. I didn't have a single maternal instinct in my body.....the rush of love just didn't happen for me. It was a slow process, creeping up on me quietly. At first it truly was a case of the blind leading the blind...but we survived. I'm now mum to a 22 year old, a 20 year old and a 9 year old and love them all to bits. I also run a pre-school, where I see a lot of new mums. I'll pass on the best bit of advice I was ever given: rest when the baby rests (housework can and will wait) and do whatever you need to do that works for you.....if you fall apart, life gets really tricky. Hugs and prayers. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11706004188685948812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-8627968751458892192013-07-19T22:31:04.578-04:002013-07-19T22:31:04.578-04:00I wish I could come over for coffee and talk mothe...I wish I could come over for coffee and talk motherhood. Two things: don't let yourself get too stressed. It's okay to lay him down for awhile. Also, best thing I ever did was let my babies learn to lay down to sleep. Yes, they'll cry, but the worst is over in three days and then when you lay them down in their crib they know it is time to go to sleep. My third child was born and I had an 18 month old and a 2 1/2 year old. Pretty stressful. I would bath, dress, and nurse. Then laid him down and bathed the other two. He was my easiest one because he learned to cry himself to sleep at 5 days old. Never any bedtime issues with him. It' hard time for mom to listen to the crying. I cried also. God bless you. <br /><br />Jo AnnaA momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00668789599986214454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-87596060130888950552013-07-19T17:20:01.808-04:002013-07-19T17:20:01.808-04:00Cristina, My heart goes out to you. I have raised...Cristina, My heart goes out to you. I have raised four amazing children, three girls and one boy. And there is no doubt about it, IT IS HARD. But it is also delightful, rewarding, exciting, and so so worth it. My one daughter literally did not sleep through the night until she was almost two, and yet my son ALWAYS slept from day one. The fact that you are honest enough to say that it is not what you expected tells me that you will be a good mom, and really great moms are getting increasingly harder to find. Parenting is about sacrificing yourself, and as I look at my four children, now 28, 24, 22, and 18, I am so very glad I did. When Noah leaves for college, you will say then "wherever did the time go?" I know that right now it seems like that day will never come. The best advice I ever received was from a friend who told me to enjoy every day, and I truly have. Love that little Noah with all of your heart and I promise, that love will come back to you tenfold..tahoe34https://www.blogger.com/profile/15532244515486976598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-33148983487277928912013-07-19T17:11:58.243-04:002013-07-19T17:11:58.243-04:00Take care and please ask someone for some help!
Yo...Take care and please ask someone for some help!<br />You really need to rest a while and then I think everything will be better.<br />I had 3 kids with 21 months in between (a girl and then twinboys) and it was not the easiest times...<br /><br />Now, my kids are 23 and 21 years old, but I can still remember how hard it was!<br /><br />However I manage and I think you do to, but Take Care!<br /> Majahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13359586542058893892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-10056226156021601482013-07-19T15:14:41.739-04:002013-07-19T15:14:41.739-04:00You have articulated very well exactly what I felt...You have articulated very well exactly what I felt 30 years ago when I was a new mom; same routine of non-stop crying. Hang in there - it gets better. Ask hubby to take the overnight shift (bottle feedings) one night a week so you can get an uninterrupted night's sleep. It's the best gift he could ever give you, and it will restore your reserves so you can cope better. At 4 months baby will stop crying and you'll fall so completely in love with him that all this will seem worth it. Meanwhile, make sure your MD knows how you're feeling and coping or not coping. You may have a touch of postpartum depression, which is very common and better to acknowledge and treat it than to try to tough it out. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-25768107931778122812013-07-19T13:36:05.054-04:002013-07-19T13:36:05.054-04:00This is true for ALL new moms! It feels like it wi...This is true for ALL new moms! It feels like it will be forever but it will start going faster. Hang in there and know we all have felt what you're feeling and you will get through!MellieWohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01930789569844365879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-52717427989173883672013-07-19T10:19:25.269-04:002013-07-19T10:19:25.269-04:00I used to be a Lamaze teacher and a mother of twin...I used to be a Lamaze teacher and a mother of twin infants, the truth is there is NO preparation that is sufficient for the experience. IT IS HARD. But you are doing it! My twins graduated from high school last month and I would not trade a moment, neither will you! TAKE CARE of YOU too! HUGS!Jessica Haddenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02875796857031179101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6305253373390719448.post-29949365217236895602013-07-18T17:24:50.280-04:002013-07-18T17:24:50.280-04:00Totally agree. Some days are brutal, and then othe...Totally agree. Some days are brutal, and then others are good. I'm in the "you cry all morning because the thought of sending your kid to daycare makes you feel like a bad mom, but you want to work and need adult time" phase. Ugh! Hugs to you momma! Chelsea and Jonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878853785752910879noreply@blogger.com